One thing that many people seem to think is that M/s is all about sexy times. They may have read books or watched movies like 50 Shades of Grey or the Beauty series and have a mental picture of what slavery or a BDSM relationship is like. When they see that reality does not always match the fantasy, many become disillusioned. They may think that their Dom or Master isn't "real" or that they are doing things "wrong" simply because it doesn't match with what they think their life should be like.
The truth is, if you are in a 24/7 M/s relationship, likely your life will not be an endless sexual romp. Real life tends to get in the way. For example, I'm a slave. According to many of the books, if I am not naked and chained to a wall, I'm not "real". My day would involve sexual use and not much else. That isn't really my reality.
My reality? I haven't seen Master in close to a week. No Master means no sexual use. I work in retail and I have a household to run while He is away. The kidlets needed to be packed off to their father's. I needed to balance working full-time with getting the housework done. And there were animals to look after.
I very much doubt that a person's idealized mental image involves the things that I have dealt with. One of the dogs is sick and there has been an awful lot of doggy diarrhea to clean up. Glamorous, I know. Then there is the laundry that always needs doing (I know, I would have fewer clothes to wash if I was naked all the time, but my boss would likely object). I'm feisty, I can be moody, I talk back on a regular basis. I get punished for it but those punishments generally are not as erotic and sexy as they are made out to be in the books.
While it may not be the picture of slavery that is so popular in books, in the media and online, I don't care. Master and I are building a life together. A functional, sustainable, rewarding life. And I wouldn't change it for the world.
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