One thing I have seen come up time and time again on some of the forums that I belong to is a discussion about women being property and whether or not this lifestyle is something that all women should aspire to live. I'm pretty happy (well, more like deliriously happy) and this style of relationship has worked very well for me in terms of personal and emotional fulfillment.
I'm not teaching my kidlets (both of whom happen to be girls) that this is the kind of relationship they need to look for.
Oh sure, some of the external parts of it, yes. For example, they need to find someone who respects them and who listens to their input. Master respects me very much and he listens to me when I venture an opinion or suggest a way of doing something. I have a brain and Master finds that brain to be a very attractive thing. It's simply up to B as to what is done about that information or opinion or suggestion. Sometimes we do it my way. Sometimes B has other ideas and we do it differently. My submission comes not so much in the form of blindly obeying without venturing an opinion.
It comes from obeying even when I don't want to.
But the obedience part of it is not what I am trying to teach them. What I want them to learn, other than how to find a good person who will treat them well, is to tell what they want from a relationship and to find a dynamic that supports that.
For example, if either kidlet decides that she is comfortable making the decisions, then she should be with someone who is comfortable with that. And that if they aren't, or there are areas where they are happy to let others be more in charge, that they don't have to do it all, all the time and that they can still be wonderful people if that's how it pans out.
I want them to choose and to learn how to shut out all of the noise that comes from social media and literature and just choose the kind of relationship that fulfills them and makes them feel loved.
Just like I have.
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