What Master and I "Get" Out of this Relationship

I've been seeing a few things popping up on my news feed on Facebook. There have been memes talking about what a "healthy" relationship is supposed to look like. While I understand that normal is just a setting on a washing machine, I feel like I should explain what Master and I "get" out of this style of relationship that could be considered a perk.

When one looks at the physical discipline, the rules and the structure, it may seem like this isn't a healthy relationship. Its important to know what the perks are, I guess, so you can understand why I would not only stay in this kind of relationship but actually seek it out and choose it over any other relationship dynamic that is out there. Because, you  see, I did actively seek it out.

I was in this kind of relationship with the kidlets' father. It ended, leaving me to navigate the muddy waters of dating. There were many, many different dynamics I could have entered into. So, why would I pick this one?

I find it comforting to know who is in charge and that there is someone making a final decision about things.I like the fact that there is a clear understanding of each of our roles and I feel that leads to less arguing. There is also no game playing. No using sex as a reward or withholding it as a punishment. I know what is expected of me and that I am held accountable for my actions. Those things are all very important to me and they make me feel loved and safe.

I asked Master what he gets out of this dynamic. After all, it seems like it would be easier to deal with someone who is independent and is able to make their own decisions. It seems like I get off easy because I don't have to make the decisions and I asked Master why he prefers this style of relationship.

He told me that he likes being in charge. He is at work and he is at home. He likes the fact that there is an outlet for his need to control things and this way, he gets things how he wants them to be when he wants them. He likes the fact that there is a definite punishment method. No sulking or grumping or holding grudges. Infraction=discipline=resolution.

I feel very fortunate that I have the Master that I do. He may be in charge but he values my opinion. He punishes me when its needed but he also takes care of me (like he has been while my back is screwed up). The same man who whips my ass tucks me into bed at night and kisses me tenderly on the forehead. Its two sides of the same coin and I truly feel richer having B as my Master.