Wedding planning M/s Style

After about a year of "dating" and several months of living together full time, B decided (as the result of a conversation I initiated) that we were, in fact getting married. I had been married before and so had B. In the beginning, we had decided that while we wanted this to be a permanent arrangement, marriage likely wasn't in the cards.

B had popped a collar around my neck fairly early on in our relationship. As a bit of detail, for a lot of people in BDSM relationships, a collar is a big thing. There is a ton of debate about whether or not it means more than, less than, or the same as an engagement/wedding ring. People get quite worked up at other people (usually via internet forums) when someone suggests a view of what a collar means that doesn't gel with their own view.

As time progressed though, marriage seemed more and more acceptable to me. I didn't want B to think that I was against it totally, but I also didn't want him to think that I was angling for a proposal. I mentioned it and he decided that we were getting married.

So here was the conundrum. We wanted there to be elements of our relationship style in the ceremony but there were all of those pesky friends and relatives, very few of whom knew we were kinky. This goes back to fantasy vs reality again, right?

We came up with a few ways to sneak it in. I wore a collar. It was dressy but it was still a collar. I promised to obey (THAT raised questions with a few friends). There were a couple of other changes to the vows. All in all, it was a lovely day and exactly the kind of event we wanted it to be.