Fantasy VS Reality

It seems like books involving BDSM relationships are everywhere these days. A lot of people have become interested in the "lifestyle"  because of the 50 Shades trilogy. Call it what you want. Hate it or love it. It doesn't matter. The fact is that the books and the movie have gotten people interested in BDSM and that's not a bad thing. What can cause problems, however, is when people don't realize that fantasy kind of falls apart during the fun of daily life.

B and I share our house with two teenage children. They are very, very aware of what goes on around them and are not afraid to ask questions. While there are periods of time where they are oblivious and have their faces glued to various electronic devices, there are also periods of time where they are watching and listening to the things we say VERY carefully.

So basically, that eliminates most of the fantasy stuff. There is very little "master"-ing. Kneeling doesn't happen nearly as much as we would like. While we would love to be able to talk freely and discuss things as they arise the fact of the matter is that usually that waits until the kidlets have gone to bed or are away/out of the house and hopefully by that time of the night, we're both still awake enough to talk about stuff coherently.

If you were to look in through a window and see our life, you'd see very little 50 Shades or Story of O, and a lot more smelly dog farts, co-parenting and other mundane stuff. It may not be glamorous but neither B nor I would change it for anything.