Lack of Play

Master and I haven't been playing as much lately. I mean, we always have rough sex. I don't think that we actually have sex without me getting slapped or choked in some way. Don't get me wrong, I love that so it's all good. There has also been punishment spankings from time to time that have been doled out as a response to something I have done. Again, that's just fine with me although I do try to avoid fucking up enough to get a spanking.

What we have been lacking is a good play session. Master enjoys restraining me (although that doesn't always happen) and going to town with things like our violet wand, our cane or our flogger. Afterward we have some pretty hot sex. It's really wonderful and I think we have both been missing it. The only problem is that there are very few times that Master and I have both kidlets out of the house at the same time unless its for school. Since Master and I have to work for a living, we are normally at work when the kidlets are at school so that's a bust.

One could argue that we should wait until the kids are in bed and then have some fun. The eldest kidlet is 17 and she stays up later than we do. She also has good (ish) hearing and isn't afraid to ask us about things that she hears. It's hard to let myself relax and enjoy what is happening to me when I worry about what will be said to me the next morning. It's also a matter of proximity. We are not rich and our house isn't massive so loudness is actually a bit of a concern. And, well, I can be a screamer.

That being said, we get that it's part of being a parent. All too soon they are both going to be out of the house and away at school and that's going to be hard. Empty nesting is great but I know it's going to require a bit of adjusting on my part.

Luckily for us, our relationship isn't based on play alone. I don't need to be tied up and whipped to feel owned or to feel as though I'm in something other than a vanilla relationship. While I love play, I love my life the way it is and if some activities end up being a bit less frequent than they could be, I'm perfectly happy with that.