One thing that I try very hard to do is to avoid bringing in unnecessary drama into my life. Some days that is easier than others. I am lucky in that my family is, for the most part, drama free especially since I don't talk to my extended family on a regular basis. In the past, that was a huge source of drama although some of the key drama-generators are no longer around to carry on the way they have. I live hours away from most of them and an ocean away from others so that influence has been greatly reduced.
I have a good group of friends who also, for the most part, don't want drama either. They have good heads on their shoulders and are fairly grounded and so the majority of them are not bringers of drama. Others, though, others do and it is those people that I am having a problem with.
They are each having their own issues and they are time consuming ones. Conversations with them are not brief as they each like to examine every nuance of a situation and need a lot of talking down off of proverbial ledges. Right now, because Master is away, it isn't too much of a conflict to be on the phone with them, or messaging them for hours each night but soon, Master will be coming home and its going to get harder. I have also found it difficult to keep up with other commitments as well and that is also an issue.
Master has the right to tell me to cut off people who have a negative influence on our lives. I trust that he won't do so arbitrarily and that there will be a good reason why he would do so. There are people who would argue that it is a sign of abuse. While it is true that isolating someone is a way that an abuser controls them I know Master would be doing it to strengthen our relationship and to reduce the stress and drama in our lives.
I just hope that things get sorted out a little and that it won't be a step that he will need to take.
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