As you can likely tell, Master is fairly relaxed when it comes to how I interact with the external world. He trusts me to be well-spoken and to express myself. Usually, I am not expected to use "slashy-speak" and I can make my own judgements about who I do and do not talk to. On the social networking site that I belong to, there are a lot of profiles which demand that if a dominant type wants to talk to someone "on the other side of the slash" they need permission from the dominant type to do so.
I asked Master once if he felt the need to have those kinds of rules in place. He kind of blinked at me, asked me why and then explained that as he feels I have the good personal judgement to avoid rude people he doesn't really need to dictate who I can and can't talk to. The kink of controlling who I speak to is not one that Master has when it comes to electronic forums.
I've been very lucky so far in that the private conversations I have had with people have been very respectful for the most part. Because I'm not 18 I haven't ended up with the barrage of dick picks and rude messages that other people have seemed to avoid. But there are people who sometimes contact me that do not understand that Master and I are committed and that I take my marriage, and Master's ownership of me, very seriously.
That being said, there is always the possibility that in future, Master may decide that he wants to control my communication with others. If that happens, I'll be okay with it. I may occasionally ask him his reasoning if he makes a decision that doesn't make sense but he doesn't mind me asking why and is usually quite happy to explain his decision making process. I trust him, though, to decide what is good for me and what is not. If there is someone he doesn't want me to talk to, chances are there is a very good reason for it.
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