Keeping the Spark Long Distance

One thing that is difficult about having Master away is the lack of physical intimacy and sexual contact while he is gone. Both he and I both have high sex drives. Its one of the things that brought us both together initially. He needed someone who could keep up with him and I am more than capable of doing so. We also tend to do best with a lot of physical contact like hugs, ass pats and other intimate touching. That is something that surprises me as I tend not to like that. From anyone. There are very few people who can touch me any time without it being an issue for me but Master is one of them.

Its very hard to go from having sex daily or, on some days, more than once in a 24 hour period. Its true that our natural sexual cycle will pick up frequency some times and slow down others but a safe average is that we have some sort of sexual activity at least every 48 hours. When Master is home on weekends, we tend to have a lot of sex in order to make up for when we are apart but it is still hard.

So, we do other things. We have phone sex. We send each other pictures and talk about our fantasies either via text messaging or phone calls. It may not be as good as a face to face meeting or interaction but its the best its going to get while he is away. Its important for us to keep the spark going because when it dies that's when things start going wrong.

This past weekend we were very much able to reconnect physically. We also got in some very rough play as well which I love and crave every so often. I got fucked pretty much every way possible and even received a caning that was very intense. Our play is getting much more aggressive which I love a lot. It should help tide us over until we can be together again but in the mean time we have other ways of maintaining a connection.

We haven't had to test the system or come up with plans for how things will be handled if Master has to go away for an extended period of time or if we do not have the ability to text or talk on the phone. I know that likely a time will come when that will be the case and at that point we will simply work on a new system. Both Master and I are making the emotional health of this relationship a priority just like we have with the physical health.