What We Do When We're Not In Bed

Often, there is a romanticized idea about what M/s is. There are a lot of people who come into this kind of relationship thinking that things are going to be very different than they actually are. People on the "s" side of the slash often fantasize that they will be in chains 24/7, that all of their time will be spent naked, on their knees, performing sexually for their M-type. People who tend to align with the M side of things often think that they will have instant control over someone and will not have to do any work making a relationship work.

Sounds great. Not terribly realistic, mind you, but who am I to deny someone their fantasy.

While Master does have control over whichever aspects of my life that he chooses to, on the outside, our relationship looks pretty damn normal. Even if we didn't have the kidlets or we lived in a society where consensual M/s slavery was an acceptable thing, I don't think a lot would change. I have too much to do to lie around in chains all day and honestly, there is only so much sex that someone can possibly have.

So, here's the side of Master and I that everyone else sees.

We love kayaking. It's something that we had the chance to get involved in about a year ago. We bought kayaks and have been on the water as often as work, the weather, and other obligations allow us to be. Other outdoor stuff we love includes camping and hiking. Oh, and fishing. I totally outfished Master last summer. We got a motor boat and got out on the water that way too. We love cooking together.

He's introducing me to golf which I suck at, and tennis, which I also suck at. We both started having fun playing pickleball.

We tend to prefer doing things together rather than separately. We make wine together. We go for bike rides together. We are building a kayak trailer together.  I tend to be uncomfortable being away from Master for any length of time and he tends to prefer to be around when he isn't working. Because of his job, he may have to go anywhere in the world at any time for an indefinite period of time, so we tend to stick close when he is home.

I think that why things work well for us is that our interests and passions really mesh well outside of the bedroom. We can talk indefinitely about a wide range of things and we really don't get tired of each other. And that is why I think our relationship will work well. Because its not all built on bedroom stuff.