One of the things that I tend to struggle with the most is the notion of being "feisty" and not "disobedient". Master loves the fact that when we play, he often has to physically overwhelm me. He loves the fact that if he's going to beat me, its going to be a bit of a struggle.
I know that I'm not going to win.
He's physically stronger and tougher than I am and I have all of this long hair that he can simply grab onto. Hair pulling hurts. Choking and face slapping are also pretty good at getting me to give up the struggle and then Master proceeds to have his way with me. It's really lovely and we both love the entire process.
I just worry sometimes that I'm being disobedient rather than feisty. So, I brought the topic up with Master. He finds me very obedient (generally). He doesn't want a doormat that simply gives in when he wants to work me over either for fun or for punishment. He wants me to disagree with him (respectfully) and let him know what I am thinking or feeling rather than keeping it all inside.
He has learned that if you want to be in charge of people, listening to them and their experience and ideas can help make better decisions. Obedience comes when he chooses to make a decision that I don't agree with and I submit to it and follow it anyway.
And that is a concept that works really well for both of us.
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