Owning Things

Today Master and I went out car shopping. His truck was a few years old and his warranty had expired due to the mileage. It was decided that we would end up going out and looking at a new Jeep for Master to see if it would work with our budget. He's always wanted one and wasn't totally happy with the truck he had been driving for a few years.

We ended up buying a Jeep. Its always interesting when Master and I go and make large purchases together. The salespeople usually talk to me a lot and I can understand why. Typically, in most situations, it is important to get the female party on board with the sale as often she will be the decider regarding purchases. It was like that when we bought our boat and it was almost like that when we were going through the process of trying to buy a cottage.

What he failed to understand was that we had already discussed the idea of switching vehicles. We had already discussed what the financial benefits were, what the advantages to having a vehicle I am not afraid to drive would be and what would end up screwing up a deal should we get to the test drive and bargaining stage.  Most wives would have an equal say in a decision as large as purchasing a vehicle. I don't and I am perfectly happy with that. I love the fact that Master values my input and listens to my point of view and preferences when it comes to big decisions.I just don't have the final say in things.

Then, it was time to visit the financing guy and I was asked if my name would be going on the loan and the ownership. We said "no". I hate having my name on things. Luckily, it doesn't seem like my name will be on the Jeep but unfortunately, its on the boat. It would have been on the cottage had we gone through with the deal (that's a story for another post though).

Owning things bothers me. I identify AS property, I don't like to own it. I have less of an issue with smaller items or with items that I brought into the relationship but I don't like being given ownership of new, large things.

True, I can see the wisdom behind it. If I am contributing financially, I can see why a bank would want my name on the paperwork. They don't understand the kind of relationship that Master and I have. And ultimately, it would offer me some sort of protection financially should Master simply look at me one morning and say "We're done, get out". It happens and I'm not so naive to think it wouldn't happen to me although with Master being the man that he is, I can't see it being overly likely.

I do wish that the type of relationship that Master and I have was more accepted legally. I wish that I could simply tell the salesman that he really doesn't need to sell me on the deal because in the end, if Master decides to move ahead with a purchase or a decision, I deal with it. Its part of our united front thing we have going. 

It looks like our shiny new Jeep is going to be ready next week. Both Master and I can hardly wait.