Our Backstory

When B and I first got together, we spent a fair amount of time discussing how we saw our future together. We did this to make sure that we were on the same page. We had originally met because B had messaged me after seeing my profile on a fetish social networking site. We chatted for a while before agreeing to meet and, while he knew what I looked like, I had no idea about him. He ended up sending me a photograph shortly before meeting for the first time so that I would know who to look for.

B and I had both been married before and we were looking for something different. My first marriage was also M/s based but B's was vanilla. Neither one of us wanted to get married again (its that once bitten, twice shy thing, I think) but we did like the idea of playing with each other and we were on the same page about a lot of attitudes and hard limits. Our particular fetishes lined up pretty well too.

As we got to know each other more and B took more and more control over my life, B decided he wanted to collar me. We spent a lot of time looking at different options and B decided he wanted me to wear a Ring of Steel stealth collar that we got from www.ringofsteel.net. It was a little while longer before we actually got around to ordering it but when we did, it came pretty quickly.

We liked it because it was easy to pass off as a necklace or choker. Its comfortable to wear and not many people recognize it for what it is. Most times, people want to look at it more closely because they think its lovely, not because they think I'm some poor oppressed woman who has to walk around in a collar.  I know what it means, B knows what it means and really, that's all that matters.